Hi everyone. I need some tea & sympathy!
After the big ol' ugly breakup of the long relationship from hell last year I FINALLY feel ready to start dating. Well, at the beginning of the year it was great. I seemed to have no end of a social life. Now things have cooled off a bit which is ok, but lately every man I meet that is interested or that I think is really hot is either firmly bi-sexual or experimenting.
Not that that's necessarily a bad thing. It's just not what I'm looking for right now. Today, I finally got brave enough to ask out this really cool gut who was clearly hetero & interested 6 months ago when I was not ready, unfortunately, now he has a boyfriend.
What's the deal. It's not as if I've changed my perfume or anything! It's nice to be attractive to people of all orientations. It would just be nicer to have some fun with someone who's only interested in me. Ya know what I mean?
So, should I just give up & become a nun?
Maybe I should add some brandy to that tea. Thanks for "listening" all. Here's hoping you all find the love or lust you want in your life!
After the big ol' ugly breakup of the long relationship from hell last year I FINALLY feel ready to start dating. Well, at the beginning of the year it was great. I seemed to have no end of a social life. Now things have cooled off a bit which is ok, but lately every man I meet that is interested or that I think is really hot is either firmly bi-sexual or experimenting.
Not that that's necessarily a bad thing. It's just not what I'm looking for right now. Today, I finally got brave enough to ask out this really cool gut who was clearly hetero & interested 6 months ago when I was not ready, unfortunately, now he has a boyfriend.
What's the deal. It's not as if I've changed my perfume or anything! It's nice to be attractive to people of all orientations. It would just be nicer to have some fun with someone who's only interested in me. Ya know what I mean?
So, should I just give up & become a nun?
Maybe I should add some brandy to that tea. Thanks for "listening" all. Here's hoping you all find the love or lust you want in your life!
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Re: Woes of attraction.....
Sat, April 23, 2005 - 9:10 PMHang in there...you'll find someone that is straight.
Two years from now, think about becoming a nun...but you got a while to go. -
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Sun, April 24, 2005 - 1:11 AMThanks for the encouragement Rev.
The irony is that I pretty much was living as a nun for the last few years except that I wasn't married to God although my ex, suffering from delusions of self importance would beg to differ. So I had been looking forward to setting my unintended vows of chastity aside......(oops! had to duck that lightening strike there) -
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Re: Woes of attraction.....
Sun, April 24, 2005 - 6:26 AMIf I was a psychologist....and I'm not....I'd say that you were attracting yourself to the bi's because you feel they'd be safe to be friends with. (The Majority of men are straight, not the other way around...)
Either that or you're hanging out in the wrong places.
Go someplace new!
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Re: Woes of attraction.....
Sun, April 24, 2005 - 10:45 AMDude-
You may have a point. I do hang out with a pretty mixed group of people though. The problem also is most of the straight men I've met recently are either married or way too young. Am I starting to sound jaded? -
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Sun, April 24, 2005 - 11:03 AMDon't forget that there is a high concentration of gay men in the Bay Area, so the odds are slightly stacked against straight women. -
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Sun, April 24, 2005 - 6:14 PMgee Thanks! I feel so much better now!
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Sat, August 27, 2005 - 8:36 AMI like what Dude wrote ... and I've known a small, but rapidly growing, army of single women who seem to be unable to discewrn why they are *never* attracted to straight, single, available, interested-in-them-back men.
After a while, a few reps of this sort of thing, it's no longer possible to write it off as, "Well, they're all that way." The lady in question is clearly, possibly w/o realizing it, choosing this course of action, again and again.
I made the horrendous mistake of meeting a bright young thing once, for dinner * drinks * conveersation, even though she told me she was already swooning for a gay friend of hers. Sure enough, he came by to the table and introduced himself to me ... I'd had more serious competition from small dogs than I would've gotten from him, except she was jusr *fixated* on the idea of getting him. She didn't get him, but that didn't matter to her...he was maybe the third or fourth gay fellow she'd tried this with, I later learned.
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Sat, August 27, 2005 - 9:58 AMNope, sorry. You guys were off. Hey, it is the bay area. And, turns out that I just know a lot of experimental type people, but oddly thanks to Tribe I've been meeting some heterosexuals with common interests. :-)
Taking it slow though!
Also, not to bag on you guys, but I think one of the reasons women are attracted to gay men at times is we can't notice how much more attentive they usually are to their hygeine. We like that. Not all prissy but clean! -
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Tue, August 30, 2005 - 12:23 PM>one of the reasons women are attracted to gay men at times is we can't notice how much more attentive they usually are to their hygeine
So, what you're saying is, there's really no problem. Right? *wink* -
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Wed, August 31, 2005 - 12:15 AMhmmmmm., yeah what ever you say Unsilent e......
Oh hell, I'll forgive you right now for being from Texas. *wink. -
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Wed, August 31, 2005 - 6:14 PMLorelei, it will be easier to forgive me than you realize - I'm from California. *winks back* I just "live" in Texas... *cough sputter rolls teary eyes* -
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Wed, August 31, 2005 - 7:54 PMNow YOU need some tea & sympathy! Maybe whiskey and sympathy! Come back to California! -
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Mon, September 5, 2005 - 11:29 AMI'd love to come back to California ... if only it were more forgiving towards the poor. Alas, one needs to be a quasi-millionaire to be able to live there nowadays. It's a shame, to be sure, esp. since I no longer think Texas girls are sexier than California girls. -
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Thu, September 8, 2005 - 6:05 PMI'm pretty sure you must be right about California girls Eric, but I'll have to give you the benefit of the doubt as I haven't dated any girls from Texas. I've met a few cute guys from Texas, but alas! They were stupid AND Republican.
And hey, as one of the poor in California-I'm proof you can still make it here. In fact I just down-sized my 4 jobs to 2 jobs! :-P
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Re: Woes of attraction.....
Wed, August 31, 2005 - 12:18 AMThanks Edgar. I can feel the love.
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Tue, August 30, 2005 - 7:30 PMI think you should give up and be an atheist nun. That way you wouldn't have to have any of the silly religion, but you'd get to wear the cool outfit. -
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Wed, August 31, 2005 - 12:28 AMSilly Jimmy....
I'm can't be an atheist nun. I'm already an agnostic pagan. that makes my parents crazy enough already!
By the way, I did play crazy nun who did card tricks in a play once. The outfit was kinda itchy against my lace undies.
Cool sword! Do you use it to slay the fundamentalist whackos?
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Wed, August 31, 2005 - 6:04 PMI've only used it to slay rabid oppossums so far. There's always the future.
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